But even on the way into the job, I have only twice experience someone telling a woman to not do IT that was when I was a student. 1. A classmate, and everyone gave him a lot of shit for it. Seriously, I don't think he had a friend in the class afterwards. 2. A father telling his daughter. And there I jumped in and challenged him on it.

It is difficult to spot sexism in a different department.

Edit: I misread the question. in my friend circle, I can't recall any woman complain about sexism at their work, but a former female friend in china. The women in my life had issue with their work but I don't recall specifically sexism. Tbf, a lot of them work in jobs that are "women jobs" like caretaker.

2.nd edit: I just recalled 1 case where someone complained about sexism to "me", friend of a friend and I was present. But honestly in that case, it was really bs. Girl admitted that she didn't know what she was doing and admitted that she didn't want to learn and then complain why everyone else got real work in the internship... So not the ideal case to talk about the very real sexism in society.

If you don't mind what do you mean that you understand now how people can believe sexism isn't an issue?

I want to stress that it is an issue, I just have a difficult time believing some of the shit because it seems so comical to me. What kind of person is that way?