Transfem
A community for transfeminine people and experiences.
This is a supportive community for all transfeminine or questioning people. Anyone is welcome to participate in this community but disrupting the safety of this space for trans feminine people is unacceptable and will result in moderator action.
Debate surrounding transgender rights or acceptance will result in an immediate ban.
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- Bigotry of any kind will not be tolerated.
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This community is supportive of DIY HRT. Unsolicited medical advice or caution being given to people on DIY will result in moderator action.
Posters may express that they are looking for responses and support from groups with certain experiences (eg. trans people, trans people with supportive parents, trans parents.). Please respect those requests and be mindful that your experience may differ from others here.
Some helpful links:
- The Gender Dysphoria Bible // In depth explanation of the different types of gender dysphoria.
- Trans Voice Help // A community here on blahaj.zone for voice training.
- LGBTQ+ Healthcare Directory // A directory of LGBTQ+ accepting Healthcare providers.
- Trans Resistance Network // A US-based mutual aid organization to help trans people facing state violence and legal discrimination.
- TLDEF's Trans Health Project // Advice about insurance claims for gender affirming healthcare and procedures.
- TransLifeLine's ID change Library // A comprehensive guide to changing your name on any US legal document.
Support Hotlines:
- The Trevor Project // Web chat, phone call, and text message LGBTQ+ support hotline.
- TransLifeLine // A US/Canada LGBTQ+ phone support hotline service. The US line has Spanish support.
- LGBT Youthline.ca // A Canadian LGBT hotline support service with phone call and web chat support. (4pm - 9:30pm EST)
- 988lifeline // A US only Crisis hotline with phone call, text and web chat support. Dedicated staff for LGBTQIA+ youth 24/7 on phone service, 3pm to 2am EST for text and web chat.
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ha, I think you're too kind ๐ I'm glad you are finding my comments helpful ๐ฅฐ
While I haven't ever seriously considered writing professionally, I have also never felt like I have anything to write that I thought fit a commercial purpose. Reading Julia Serano and Mia Violet have made me feel like I don't have much to add, others have already covered it.
I think of myself more like a Wikipedia editor than an author, if that makes sense - someone in the background who wants to help make information more accessible, digestible, etc. - but not necessarily someone who has had any unique perspective that I feel the world is missing.
And I feel you on the home renovations, I couldn't find anyone to fix some water damage in a bathroom after demolition and remediation happened, so I ended up teaching myself and doing all the construction myself - this occurred right in the middle of my social transition, and re-occupying that masculine role was very dysphoria inducing.
Nowadays when I'm engaging in projects that make me feel masculine like that, I like to do things that make me feel femme, like putting my hair up in a ponytail, wearing a busty / tight-fitting tank-top and tight jeans that emphasize by butt - that all definitely helps ground me a little in my femininity. The work is physical and invokes the body, so efforts to help me re-interpret that body in those movements really seem to help. Sometimes I can even feel proud of myself as a woman for the hard work I'm doing, rather than my old thinking that this kind of labor is expected of me because of my perceived gender.