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[–] Lightor@lemmy.world 4 points 19 hours ago (1 children)

I think that's what stuck for me. Manipulation takes many forms, not all look evil. She should take these observations and talk to him about it, instead of using them as tools to treat his feelings.

[–] petrol_sniff_king@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 12 hours ago* (last edited 12 hours ago) (1 children)

Talk about what, though?

"Hello, I would like to give you peanuts sometimes when you're sad. Do you accept these terms?"

What is he consenting to that he's not already aware of?

Speaking of pavlovian conditioning, the reason I don't like casinos, loot boxes in video games, gacha mechanics, etc., is not that I think those people haven't consented to their money being taken from them. I just don't think those are good institutions. Or practices. Whichever word applies. They take more than they give, and I don't think that's fair.

[–] Lightor@lemmy.world 1 points 3 hours ago* (last edited 2 hours ago)

You're grossly misrepresenting what this is. She got desserts and noted him as food motivated. That's insulting. He only got happy because there was food for him to eat, really? No discussion of why he was sad before, just get him snacks and move on? Maybe talk to him and ask why he seemed upset before desert instead of just giving him a snack and hoping it's better.

The woman here is trying to change his mood or behavior through dog training techniques instead of figuring out why he feels or acts a certain way. Is he aware that she is literally treating him like a dog? It comes across as her caring about his behavior in the moment more than his overall mental health.