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Don't know what the other comment was, but everyone has experienced sexism. It's inevitable that inaccurate gender stereotypes will be applied to you at some time. For men it's just the "stop emoting you fucking pussy" or "you suck at nurturing so don't even try."
The patriarchy fucks us all.
While I agree, men face sexism too, in a different way. It feels like minimizing their experiences, to have someone come in here and say, well, actually, men face sexism as well.
I am a guy, for the record. I just finally started listening to the women in my life who have been telling me for years that they face this stuff.
I don't think it's minimizing to acknowledge that sexism is endemic and cuts both ways.
You don't have to think its minimizing. I'm trying to tell you nicely that it is.
Well, you're wrong, so maybe don't be a condescending shit about it
The fact that you are so angry about what I have to say tells me I'm not.
The fact that you have to pretend I'm angry for pointing out you were a cunt just to pretend you're in the right is sad
Do some self reflection my dude. Toxic masculinity is not the same thing, not even close.
Never said it was the same thing, don't put words in other people's mouth. You said it minimizes people's experience to point out that sexism isn't exclusively experienced by one sex, which is a silly thing to say, and was the point of discussion, because of your original "if you haven't experienced sexism you're a man" comment
The reading comprehension/memory of people on this site has gone down the shitter the last couple weeks, jfc
Good talk, but clearly not gonna get anywhere here. Have a nice weekend.
The patriarchy is also what sends men to die for imperialism, tells them they can't ask for help, admit weakness, or be vulnerable. It's why the ratio of suicides is 6:1 men to women in the US and men are something like 4 times more likely to die deaths of despair, take jobs that destroy their body, or get rejected from jobs that deal with caring or teaching because of biased assumptions of pedophilia and sexual abuse.
Yes, some (read: cis, hetero, rich) men are privileged by the system, and we should absolutely not discount women's experiences, but it's not one or the other, it's both.
Nobody is arguing that the patriarchy fucks men harder than women because you're right, it doesn't.
Your dismissal of the military issue and suicide is an example of your, and society's, complete lack of empathy for men. Sure, it's not women sending men to die, or directly causing them to feel hopeless, but that doesn't somehow mean they aren't victims of the patriarchy.
Did I personally get ordered to die? No, but I sure as hell had my role as an emotionless working machine, the assumed self-sufficient breadwinner that needed to support my entire family myself even if it meant my life was expendable, pushed on me by men, women, religion, and the media. And if I didn't want that role or failed to live up to it, I'm a fucking loser and the community doesn't care that I fed myself to a meat grinder and came out broken.
I promise, it's possible to have empathy for the women who are being fucked by the patriarchy as well as the men simultaneously. Going back to my initial comment, it was never trying to disregard the scientist in the post, only dispel this idea that there is some individual that hasn't experienced sexism/patriarchy.
You keep getting hung up on conscription as if there aren't thousands of men who went to war in the last 25 years. You don't have to be drafted to get killed or traumatized, and just because you enlisted doesn't mean you deserved everything that happened to you (esp. when most enlist are poor, have no prospects, and get effectively brainwashed as a teenager that the military is an out).
As for the rest, yes have empathy for single parents and wage slaves of any gender. I'm sorry sexual assault is thing that happens to many women.
Man, you're really trying to disprove your claim of having empathy for men, aren'tcha?