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The Gender Dysphoria Bible // In depth explanation of the different types of gender dysphoria.
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Trans Resistance Network // A US-based mutual aid organization to help trans people facing state violence and legal discrimination.
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TransLifeLine's ID change Library // A comprehensive guide to changing your name on any US legal document.

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988lifeline // A US only Crisis hotline with phone call, text and web chat support. Dedicated staff for LGBTQIA+ youth 24/7 on phone service, 3pm to 2am EST for text and web chat.

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[Venting] What kind of dumbasses think we pretend to be trans?? (lemmy.blahaj.zone)

submitted 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) by AllukaTheCutie7725@lemmy.blahaj.zone to c/mtf@lemmy.blahaj.zone

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I just recently had some awful DM harassment from a transphobic idiot who told me that I was pretending to be trans. It was dealt with but I'm still left wondering. Why do some people believe that we would pretend to be trans? What do they think someone would gain by "pretending" to be trans. It just seems so stupid because I've dealt with so much oppression and people invalidating me my whole life, and yet they still think I'm pretending to be trans for some some reason...? Why? What the fuck does someone gain from pretending to be trans? This makes no fucking sense whatsoever.

Sorry for this rant, I really needed to get this off my chest.

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[–] ItsJannnneee@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

I think of it the same way as people who think someone pretends to be depressed. It's just yet another way of invalidating trans people and I'm so sorry that happened to you. People really are cruel. Some people think they can get away with transphobia by diluting it (in their eyes) and this is one of the ways they're trying to do it. Make no mistake most of the time it's just transphobia, there are people who are genuinely ignorant abt trans people but usually this is just coming from bigots.