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I think you might be asexual friend. That’s entirely okay, but you are on end of the spectrum. Some of us have an “ideal” of 1-2 times per day.
1-2 times a day??? I think most people don't even masturbate that much. This sound more like an addiction.
There’s a huge spectrum in sexual expression among all human beings, and because it’s very private it can be hard to you’re bearings on reasonable, but I would say that’s ~2.5% of the population with ~2.5% being team “none unless it’s reproductive.” It’s the kind of shit where you can pick apart the methodology of any study like a Costco chicken because of how complex peoples reactions to their own sexualities can be.
If an “Ashley Maddison” tier thing happened with Grindr… I think about 1/10 straight married men actively have sex with men on the side, with varying justifications/outright denial of the thought of being “bisexual.” Sex is a powerful, irrational drive that can override ethics and self identity - which makes it difficult to study.
There's no such thing as a sex addiction.
What?
2nd sentence from your own link:
https://www.insidehook.com/sex-and-dating/sex-addiction-not-real-and-time-stop-calling
https://www.vice.com/en/article/theres-no-such-thing-as-a-sex-addiction/
It's not real, it's just weird abstinence / No Fap rebranded.
The "Is it an ADDICTION??" Pearl clutching from the 90s needs to go too.
If you become obsessive with it, and it gets in the way of doing other things like putting food on the table, it's a disorder.
Not an addiction.