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[for context, we are in an open relationship so i do have crushes and can date people, which she is okay with for anyone looking at my profile. for those assuming ā€œheā€ automatically, iā€™m technically nonbinary]

my (18nb) long-distance girlfriend natalia (19f) (she lives several states away) has been my friend for a few months at first.

then, she confessed to me and we dated for a few months. we broke up and got back together. for the first few months again, she was a pretty great girlfriend who spent time with me, but now all she does is play videogames.

first, natalia would stop responding to my texts and be active less. if she was online, sheā€™d be in the group chat texting her friends and would only respond to my messages there, which would just be a simple ā€œhi, how are youā€ before she went offline again.

she said she would check my messages more but she hasnā€™t :(

next, she started texting an ai bot a lot and seemed embarrassed when I found out. I used to barely go on the group chat but I got curious when i saw texts between her and a guy (which turned out to be an AI like I said).

now, itā€™s video games. she doesnā€™t even look at my messages and only goes in the group chat. she only seems to be close with some friends now, talking about gossip and such. Most of her recent messages are just planning a video game to play with her friends, and then she goes offline.

iā€™ve talked to her about things like this before, she apologizes, and does it again. I canā€™t talk to her now because she doesnā€™t reply, and I canā€™t break up because i know sheā€™d lie about me (slander) as her ā€œrevengeā€ for breaking up.

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[ā€“] voytek709@lemmy.ca 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Thank you!! I would talk but she never responds :,)

[ā€“] 7U5K3N@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 points 1 day ago

Yeah she's not interested and is either getting off on ignoring you.. or is too much of a coward to break up.

Let her fade out and go date. Women want someone just as much as men.. there are opportunities... Go find them. :)