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Back in 2013 during the trans bathroom panic under Obama in NC I got attacked in a bathroom in NY for being perceived as trans. I’m a woman, in the woman’s room, with a vagina. My crime? Short hair. Queer appearance.
The attack on trans people is an attack on "others".
You got attacked not for looking trans, but not looking enough like a woman.
That's the insidious thing about the alt right. It's about what they believe is "right".
I’m fully aware
That's what trans bathroom bills are really about. Enforcing the gender binary, including expressions. It's super pathetic, but also super scary
Oh terrifying for sure. I was violently bullied my entire life growing up in the 90s on Long Island NY for being gay and gender nonconforming.
I’m a full grown adult in their mid 30s now and I would 100% fight to the fucking death in a bathroom if I have to. Zero regrets I will smash someone’s head in at this point if they try to fuck with me. I’m small but I’m insane. I’m also an athlete so I’m a hell of a lot faster on my feet than the average fucking chud.
I am often in workwear (big canvas jackets, steal toed boots, ill-fitting pants) in public bathrooms because of my job. I'm also a retired athlete who is built a little bigger than the average woman. I have been screamed at by a woman in home depot saying, "You're not supposed to be in here. This is the ladies." There have been a few other times I have gotten glares and suspicious looks trying to figure out what I have going on under my large clothes.
I have a theory that most of this trans bathroom fear has resulted in negativity towards other women. Butch women exist.
Exactly!
What’s crazy is that while I’m somewhat butch my face is still very feminine and I’m on the small side (well, bigger than I look, but smaller than the average American) - I’m like 5’4, 135lbs and fit and I wear masc clothes. But my face should give it away… and yet it doesn’t.
I think I might want to take up some self defense classes for when running isn’t an option. If I’m backed up into a corner in a bathroom I’ll fight for sure.
What the fuck is wrong with these people? I do everything I can to avoid eye contact or even look at another person in public restrooms. Who's in there doing fucking gender checks, that's just so fucking psychotic.
Awful. Just awful.
I don’t think I’m in as much risk now as I was then as I moved to vermont and people here are very live and let live whereas the part of NY I’m from lost their goddamn minds and made politics their entire personality. But who knows how much longer until that disease comes here.