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Everytime i see a bill that includes "child safety" in the title, i know it's just going to be another attempt at turning the internet into a garden walled, big corpo controlled shithole, with the glowies being able to read any and all messages, and encryption being illegal.
An internet devoid of unacceptable "deviations" from gender and sexuality too. Given the effort to erase trans and gay people from public spaces, this seems like a parallel effort to destroy their digital ones too.
Not just any rant, a blatantly discriminatory one!
You DO see the contradiction where you claim to not care about somebody’s sexuality, yet get offended when you hear about it, right? And what’s worse, you don’t just get offended, but you turn around and directly insult those people by insisting they have a mental illness!
What you’re really saying is that you’re so offended by someone else’s harmless actions that you wish they would disappear.
Eh, I think you're missing their point. This is one of those "Why do you get to claim you're special, but nobody is telling me I'M special?" kind of comments. They're saying they just want people to suck as much as anyone else and it all be equal. It's a stupid argument, but definitely different than your interpretation and response.
Not really harmless tho, i've seen countless places turn into a trans circlejerk.
As for the "caring" part, i don't care whatever you are, just don't mention it. I don't need to hear "im trans" every second, or it being mentioned in every message, or your name, your blog etc etc
Please elaborate, how exactly are you harmed by a trans circlejerk?
Someone tugged too hard 😥
I want to hear it.
And it’s a discussion community, there’s a topic and people respond. If you don’t like it just move on. No reason to tell anyone to shut up.
Eh, in general i agree with you, but i think in this case it could be considered as "ironic". Like someone complains "I'm tired of hearing about trans in public spaces, pls keep it for yourself, we dont care", and someone replies "Im' tired of hearing complaints about trans in public spaces, pls keep it for yourself, we dont care". I think we all agree that the argument is not really good in any case, but as the second one was a reply, maybe we can see it as an application of first comment's logic to itself.
Help my fragile gender identity is being harmed by the trans agenda
It was probably unproductive of me to try to talk about it further with them, and I really wanted to sign off with "btw I'm nonbinary" on every reply I made
What exactly would that even be? "hnghh, we respect other people's choices and individuality, hngggh" How awful. All we want is to have the same respect and autonomy granted to straight and/or cis people to be granted to us.
And that's harmful because unless you truly are consistent and also don't want men to mention their girlfriends or wives and for women to never mention their boyfriends or husbands around you, you're treating people differently based on their gender or sexuality, allowing someone to talk about their home life, what they may have done over the weekend with their partner, but only if it ain't gay or trans.
Literally the entire point of pronouns is defeated if people don't know what pronouns a person uses (and this applies to more than just trans people too), so there is some use for people that put them in their name.
Beyond that though, even if there's no need to say or publicly display something, that doesn't mean one shouldn't say it, and it definitely doesn't mean one should be forbidden from saying it. There's no need for people to tell me about their hobbies, or wear t-shirts or put up bumper stickers with messages on them, or put up religious symbols everywhere. Perhaps I'm tired of seeing messaging for political candidates I don't like, and wish they'd keep their preferences to themselves, or perhaps I don't care if people are married, they could just keep it between themselves rather than wear some rings to tell the world about it. But you know what? If I were to support making it illegal to say and show and wear an express such things, especially on the internet where the stakes are even lower, I'd be closer to the leader of something like the Taliban or North Korea, than to a good citizen of a democracy.
Even if you think saying/displaying/supporting something is "attention seeking", well, people have a right to do that. To try to restrict that would be to restrict the right to free speech itself, because you cannot communicate with someone without first getting their attention.
True that, but i never said it should be forbidden, i just said i'd prefer if it would be
can cis people put pronouns in their name
Hopefully nothing stopping you, and it can avoid some awkward situations. My company forbids us from including them in our email signature block, and there's been some confusion due to people assuming I'm a woman and using she/her pronouns to refer to me. Even as a cis white guy, I wish my company let us add preferred pronouns to avoid dumb little situations like that.
I'm sorry to put you on a spotlight, but your situation is precisely what I was thinking about when I made my comment. Not queer or some woke SJW warrior. You're just a person trying to live his life, and I have to imagine that a State Law banning you from putting them in anything official or public would be similarly frustrating.
But the thing is, you're just collateral damage at best to the GOP, and speaking from experience, at worst the target of ire simply for creating such confusion in other people for merely having an ambiguous name, I assume.
Obviously just adding pronouns would be better, but can you add “Mr.” at the beginning of your name in your signature?
Sounds like you need to find a new employer. That is a toxic and discriminatory policy that exists exclusively for one reason: because the executives are raging bigots.
IDK, if she lives in one of these authoritarian right wing regimes in the US, the company might not have a choice.
Yes, and it's actually appreciated by many trans and nonbinary people, because it normalises the concept.
I really don't think you are, because most people don't realize how broad things will get. While right now, the targets are trans and gay people, people who write and pass these sorts of laws don't want to stop there. When I said "deviations", I wasn't just speaking about 'us queers', but also about men with long hair, women with flat chests, literally anyone who doesn't mould themselves into the right wing's view of "Man" and "Woman". I don't think you want the colour of your shirts policed, or for cops to come in and throw a woman out of the restroom because she wasn't "feminine" enough to someone.
If you don't care, then why does it bother you so much to see them merely existing in public or online?
I'd like to suggest that you ignore pronouns or pride flags since they clearly don't appeal to you, but like many things in life, what doesn't matter to you might matter to one of the other 7 billion or so human beings on the planet with you, and putting the pronouns in the bio or displaying a pride flag actively communicates safety and creates a welcoming atmosphere, while also helping us find like-minded people and make friendships.
You seem like a pretty solid poster except for this one pretty bad take. Don’t let dramatic internet discourse and a few attention grabbing media personalities or allies shape your viewpoint for an entire group.
I know you probably already know this but I don’t want good posters leaving Lemmy because of silly disagreements or pet peeves. There are annoying people pushing toxic discourse on any issue. Generally people will live and let live if you don’t personally attack them. Someone specifying their pronouns isn’t attention seeking behavior (usually) it’s just a courtesy. Your comment is just begging for the kind of responses that will require you to give people the kind of attention you claim to hate giving them.