I used to live by that rule, but it turns not everyone likes to be treated the way I like to be treated. So now I just ask how they want to be treated.

Just a trick I picked up from the BDSM subs ;)

[–] thestereobus@lemmy.ml 14 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

Exactly. I had to learn this too. I am unusual in a number of ways. When I treat people how I want to be treated I am often mistreating them and damaging the relationship. People are different and need different things. You have to communicate rather than unilaterally apply your self-empathy.

[–] 0ops@lemm.ee 10 points 11 months ago

Yeah, there's a lot of things IDGAF about myself (like my birthdays, etc.) that make it easy to forget that for other people it means a lot. So even if I'm a cool acquaintance I'll be a shitty friend :(. I'm working on that

[–] Iapar@feddit.de 9 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Nope, because what you want might differ from what they want. So the rule is: treat people how they want to be treated.

[–] cameron_vale@lemm.ee 4 points 11 months ago

That's a very large thing (the art of treating me well) to be conveyed via such a narrow channel (chitchat). Your best gauge of other people is yourself. And that works very well.

[–] onestop@lemmy.ml 9 points 11 months ago

second rule of figh club is you don’t talk about the golden rule

[–] crycry@lemmy.ml 8 points 11 months ago (1 children)

This has been my number 1 rule since I learned I was being an arse.

[–] MrSilkworm@lemmy.world 1 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Being an arse ain't so bad

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[–] SVcross@lemmy.world 5 points 11 months ago (1 children)

I want to be pegged.

[–] can@sh.itjust.works 8 points 11 months ago

You know what you must do

[–] Luisp@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 points 11 months ago (1 children)

I will guess everyone is a masochist from now on

[–] clark@midwest.social 1 points 11 months ago

You wouldn’t be wrong about me!

[–] rmuk@feddit.uk 4 points 11 months ago (2 children)

What if I want other people to fight me?

[–] Psionicsickness@reddthat.com 2 points 11 months ago

I’m your huckleberry.

[–] gmtom@lemmy.world 3 points 11 months ago

If I treated people how I want to be treated I would get arrested

[–] jollyrogue@lemmy.ml 3 points 11 months ago

The third rule of fight club is don’t yuck others yum.

[–] cameron_vale@lemm.ee 3 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

But what if they doubt the truth that you and all other sane, intelligent people hold dear? They must be dogpiled and shat upon. Right?

[–] ShortFuse@lemmy.world 3 points 11 months ago

In Tyler we trust.

[–] OutlierBlue@lemmy.ca 3 points 11 months ago (2 children)

But this meme breaks the first rule of Fight Club!

[–] Potatos_are_not_friends@lemmy.world 4 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Ah sorry I'm late. Was too busy sharing with people how awesome this fight club concept is. What's the first rule of fight club?

[–] lugal@sopuli.xyz 2 points 11 months ago

The first rule is don't talk about the first club. The second rule is DO NOT TALK ABOUT THE FIGHT CLUB!

I always forget most others but the 8th (which is the last one) is if you're new, you have to fight.

[–] Arthur_Leywin@lemmy.ml 3 points 11 months ago

That rule sounds nice, but people can have very different expectations. This is a rule that shouldn't be followed strictly.

[–] AeonFelis@lemmy.world 2 points 11 months ago (1 children)

What if I have self destructive tendencies?

[–] embed_me@programming.dev 1 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Then you are a menace to Society Inc. Begone foul creature

[–] AeonFelis@lemmy.world 2 points 11 months ago

Are you treating me how you want to be treated?