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[–] ssboomman@lemm.ee 51 points 1 year ago (9 children)

I’m a bisexual black guy. All of the slurs lol

[–] Lacanoodle 18 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Create a venn diagram and check it all off

[–] bobs_monkey@lemm.ee 18 points 1 year ago (1 children)
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[–] 6daemonbag@lemmy.dbzer0.com 23 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Having grown up where David Duke also lives, ambiguously failing the paper bag test, and coming of age during 9/11, I encountered a wide variety of racial insults. Many of them involved the n-word.

The most memorable one for me happened after the orator learned that I was neither black, Arabic, Hispanic, Italian, nor Asian.

"Oh you're Hawaiian? I heard you Island N-words don't even sing the National Anthem."

The other aggressors as well as my friends burst into laughter at how ridiculously stupid his statement sounded. Even his buddy was like, "Hawaii is a state you fucking idiot."

The encounter ended and we all moved on but I still laugh when it pops into my head

[–] BlueEther@no.lastname.nz 23 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I'm a white heterosexual guy, Grew up in New Zealand through the 80's and 90's - long hair on guys was not uncommon even in small town NZ, and I rocked full head of hair 1/2 way down my back...

I moved to northern England in 2000, I think I heard all the fag/gay/poofter... terms thrown at me, more often than not with vitriol.

Ps I finally cut it all off last year after having long hair for around 35 years

[–] fleabs@lemmy.world 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

As a born and bred Geordie, I apologise on behalf of the northerners. The early 2000s were a pretty shit time around those parts for intolerance. I used to dress "alternatively", black fingernails, spikey died hair etc. And would get similar slurs thrown my way despite being heterosexual. I no longer live in Newcastle, but it seems a LOT better these days when I visit.

[–] BlueEther@no.lastname.nz 2 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Wasn't quite Geordie land, I was based in Darlo / Middlesbrough area. Probably not too different.

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[–] shinigamiookamiryuu@lemm.ee 21 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Not really something most people are going to call a slur, but asexuality is hugely misunderstood it seems and it doesn't help to be called things like a "waste of flesh" or "fair game" by people whose minds live chronically in the gutter.

[–] Lacanoodle 2 points 1 year ago

Jesus christ wtf

[–] ininewcrow@lemmy.ca 19 points 1 year ago

Wagon burner

I'm indigenous but my younger brother and I used to make fun of it

We now refer to ourselves as 'Station Wagon Burners'

[–] DeathWearsANecktie@lemm.ee 18 points 1 year ago (1 children)

When I was like 17, someone on the internet called me "pizza face" for absolutely no reason after seeing a picture of me. I had really bad acne at the time, so my face resembled a pepperoni pizza.

It's funny now when I think about it because it was a great insult. But I have to admit they successfully offended me.

[–] lichtmetzger@feddit.de 2 points 1 year ago

Oh I got called that, too. Similar problems. Being a teenager was rough.

[–] xpinchx@lemmy.world 17 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Someone called me a cinnamon toast bitch today on overwatch.

[–] Ruben@feddit.nl 9 points 1 year ago

Cinnamon toast is delicious, I'd take that as a compliment

[–] mriormro@lemmy.world 16 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I was referred to as 'the help' once. It was said seriously and the person who said it did not see issue with it.

[–] Lacanoodle 15 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I thought this was an acceptable term?? TIL

[–] mriormro@lemmy.world 21 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

There's a lot of historical and cultural baggage with that term in the US. Specifically concerning its use in reference to house slaves and then freed slaves during and after our reconstruction.

[–] Lacanoodle 14 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Oh. Not from the US, didn't know it was that serious. Sorry

[–] mriormro@lemmy.world 14 points 1 year ago

Oh no worries! I just assume that everyone else isn't from the US on Lemmy so I try to contextualize where I can.

[–] boatswain@infosec.pub 4 points 1 year ago

I'm from the US and I've never heard of it being super problematic, though I'd consider it a bit dehumanizing to refer to anyone by their job rather than by their name.

[–] southsamurai@sh.itjust.works 15 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

Let's see... I'm a heterosexual white male.

I've been called faΓ—Γ—ot, niΓ—Γ—er, and (for some insane fucking reason) kike. Now, I only put the Γ—Γ— in those first two because they tend to get filtered otherwise, this is one of the rare instances when the terms are appropriate to spell out, so anyone trying to jump my ass about that is going to be made fun of.

Now, the fag part, that makes sense because that is something plenty of idiots default to as an insult, and it was most commonly thrown at me when I was bouncing for a few gay bars, so that made sense too.

But the other two? I'm not just Caucasian, I'm white, as in if I get more than five minutes of sun, I turn red. Almost all fucking irish and German ancestry. We pale, pasty fuckers are about as white as it gets. And it wasn't just once! Two different times the slur has been thrown at me. Neither time was I even around anyone black.

And kike? I didn't even know what the fuck it meant at the time. There was zero jewish presence in the entire county until maybe fifteen years ago. The nearest synagogue is two hours driving away. So, I assume the idiot didn't know what it meant, or he was an even bigger idiot than using the term in the first place would indicate.

People are fucking tripping sometimes.

But you know what has never, ever been directed at me? Honky. Nor has mick or kraut, though I've never thought of those as a big deal because both sides of my family laugh at them. It's just fucking weird to me that the n word in specific was thrown my way twice, by two different adults. Like, I know you're an idiot because the word came out of your mouth, but wtf? Why that one?

[–] NOT_RICK@lemmy.world 11 points 1 year ago (1 children)

FYI two asterisks is the code to bold text so your comment isn’t rendered as you intended. Took me a second to realize what you meant.

Yeah, I noticed that as I was reading your comment lol. Thanks for the catch!

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[–] Smokeydope@lemmy.world 13 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

The Spanish love to call me a gringo. I mean they aren't wrong, I'm as white as white gets.

Its nice to see the air taken out of their sails and face turn red when they find out ol gringo here knows their language and can tell when I'm being insulted to my face, then inform them that they can at least insult me in our country's language like the rest of the racist whitey hating pricks.

[–] PseudoSpock@lemmy.dbzer0.com 12 points 1 year ago (1 children)

β€œYou are just like your mother.”

[–] Ruben@feddit.nl 12 points 1 year ago

Yeah I was also told "You are just like PseudoSpock's mother" once

[–] Lacanoodle 11 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I've recently been called a man whore for the third time in my life which is shocking, thought men weren't judged for that lol. Funnily twice by men.

[–] radix@lemm.ee 7 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I didn't know anyone would say that with a straight face. It's so funny to me to just imagine some grown-up playground-bully type call another grown man a "man whore".

[–] Lacanoodle 5 points 1 year ago

It comes as a mild shock to me, since we have a very strong purity culture here. I still have an unflattering tho undeserved reputation.

[–] 31415926535@lemm.ee 9 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Fat dyke. Cracker. Loser. Piece of shit. Failure. Being sexually harassed by guy throwing me against a wall, shove him back, told im a typical snowflake, yet another stupid bitch who can't take a joke. Get the fuck out , go back where you belong. Was especially fun living in homeless shelter, standing out front smoking a cig, and black guys driving by yelling at me that I'm a gentrifier.

Homeless shelters are fun.

[–] punkwalrus@lemmy.world 5 points 1 year ago

"He certainly has a fertile imagination," said by some upper class twat trying to sound intelligent while using an intellectual dog whistle to alert other highbrows I was a liar, and passing it off to stupid little me as a compliment.

[–] chicken@lemmy.dbzer0.com 5 points 1 year ago

Doesn't really qualify but I'm gonna link to when someone here called me beanboy because it is funny

[–] Rocky60@lemm.ee 5 points 1 year ago

A few people have told me I have beady eyes and it cut deep

I'd go with the good ole' "Baptiste the autistic"

Also I am most probably autistic indeed and have come today to the terms of it, but when I was 10 I had no idea what I was doing wrong.

[–] SeeMinusMinus@lemmy.world 4 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Recently a short high schooler that looks like a 5th grader said "dicks are for chicks you silly f*ggot" to me. Normally I would own up to it just to see the look on there face but this kid REALLY annoys me.

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[–] makingStuffForFun@lemmy.ml 4 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Was called "boy" insultingly by a Chinese dude who wanted the taxi and was trying to put himself above me to show it was his.

I'm a white 6-foot dude who was about 10 years older, and taller than him.

Racist twats exist everywhere.

[–] Globulart@lemmy.world 10 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Why is that racist...?

Honestly, the irrelevant fact that the person was Chinese is the most racist thing in this comment.

[–] Nemo@midwest.social 2 points 1 year ago

That was meant sincerely, and not just to insult or outrage?

"Yankee"

[–] swab148@startrek.website 2 points 1 year ago (2 children)
[–] Lacanoodle 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Yeah that's someone trying to get on your nerves, sooo annoying

[–] swab148@startrek.website 2 points 1 year ago

I've been called worse slurs, being bi in a red state, but that one stings the most. Like, I get that you might not respect me on a personal level, but now you're not even respecting me on a professional level.

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Damn, sorry about that. She’s the worst.

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