Having autism can be quite difficult. We are all in this together. There are people like you going though the same things you just have to know where to look.
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Being understood is difficult. I find I'm very intense when it comes to something I'm into. And I talk in long sentences or type walls of text. Those can make it hard for people to respond or interact.
Sometimes you just have to do you and do it with pride.
What exactly do you mean by no one understanding you?
what you just said to me, you don't even understand me.
You can't expect people to understand if you don't explain π€·.
I can't fully explain stuff well
Well, if you don't try, we can't help.
I don't have autism, but I am kinda weird, so I think I could (maybe) help, but you have to explain things.
I'm bad at it
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You have to start talking man, otherwise we can't help.
EDIT: Sorry, just realized you're a woman π.
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Oh, come on, can't be that bad π. I live with a person I can't stand, and I have to do it for at least another 14 or 15 years, beat that π.
I mean... as an autistic person, when your only statement is "I've done this, this, and that. Nobody understands!" Your statement is very critically missing anything to do with what people are failing to understand, or what you're trying to accomplish. Autism can be hard, but complaining about this as an issue while not actually demonstrating an issue, and actually demonstrating a complete non-issue, is not going to get any help for yourself.
All you have specificied here is that you:
- Do things
- Aren't understood
What are we supposed to get out of that? Sure, nobody is understanding, but you've given nothing to interpret or understand.
If you have issues saying what you have issues with, I can relate, that is something I deal with. Expressing yourself can be hard. What makes it harder is not trying to express anything, because that "expressing" is hard. Express anything, even if it isn't perfect or close to what you're thinking, because at least you can hear yourself say it and think "oh, yea that is NOT it." Eventually you'll be left with whatever it is.
Yeah, it's difficult sometimes. My friends sometimes don't seem to get me sometimes but sharing common interest(s) seems to work. Playing games together even if not directly interacting (eg both of us on the same Minecraft server but me building a base and them exploring/mining or playing separate empires in a friendly game of Civilization or Stellaris)
I seem to understand you just fine, whatβs up?
I feel like that too sometimes. It's an overwhelming, lonely, and hopeless feeling that is nearly unbearable. I just end up isolating myself through those times. It can help in the moment so that I don't react in a way that hurts others or my relationship with them, but if I stay isolated for too long, I get even more sad and lonely. It also doesn't give me an opportunity to find people that may understand me, which makes sense at the time because I'm already convinced that no one will anyway. I'm sorry you're going through that, but I'm happy you felt comfortable enough to share here.
If you haven't already, maybe consider joining our chat when you feel better. We have a room specifically for venting and seeking help from each other, along with other rooms for lighter topics. I hope to see you there π
I try everything I can, music, animation, art, programming, even Sports yet no one understands me!
Language!
Seriously, what i found out is that (kind of) everyone "speaks a different language". Unforunately, most people are not aware of this, so the burden is on those who do get aware, to communicate in a language that the other one understands. Autistic people tend to use and understand languages differently, in characteristic ways. More formulaic or more complex, for example -- thus a difficulty arises in translating their idea, say into somewhat more culturally-associative or sequetial/one-dimensional language.
In other words, i think that i understand you! π₯²
The list of things you tried to express in, those can all be taken as different languages, all with their own complexity and levels of formulaity, suitable for communicating different things. I mean for example, that music and arts can be good for displaying emotions and impressions, among other things. Even Sports can convey a lot of practical philosophy.
So, for me it gets interesting when someone says that they are "not understood" but their list of languages they considered to convey their idea does not include verbal language. That is not a fault. Many people and by far not only ND ones don't do well in verbal expression. Some of the most proficient exerts are very good at expressing their ideas in math, but ask them to explain all that in plain language or talk about the philosophical implications and they will fail.
Perhaps you are asking for help with coming toward a "translation", or perhaps it is about finding a suitable way to express. Or perhaps you are asking for someone who could resonate with your way of expression; someone who is able to communicate in your way.
My first question back to/for you may be, could you explain it in words, in what ways is your use of those means of expression you mentioned different/divergent from the way others use them? -- Or is it so that you "failed" in those disciplines at expressing your idea (trying to imitate rather than innovate)? (Did you ever think about it?)
There are ways to going by example also online. One place for such things could indeed be the Matrix chat.
The way in which you use a language or an art differently matters! If only few people understand you then you are doing something out of the ordinary. It might be unfitting in your social environment but it might as well be something novel.
Here is an example from me. When I play my drum then I can tell a story. You bet there is rarely a 4/4 beat in that playing, and it's not just any drum but it's melodic. Rarely there is someone who would inquire about the playing but rather about the drum ... because the technical seems to be talked about more easily than the dramatic, idk. And rarely there is someone who could follow, as the way is intuitive; I never play the exact same thing twice.
I'd also ask you how old you are. It's because more lifetime brings more experience and less lifetime brings less expectation. ... I'm a fourty-eight year old boy who sometimes has something coming through in an odd rhythm on his very own kind of drum, and who sometimes writes multidimensionally, and who makes a distinction between "I" and "i". And something that i am actually quite bad at but anyway -- i'm coming to a conclusion that it's better to seek the right people to communicate with, than trying to make everyone understand. Trying to explain all that in words might fill books, so it might be more easy to find someone who can understand and follow the drum.
I don't think expecting people to understand you is the right mind set. You have to understand them first, why they're unable to see what you want them to see and guide them to understanding.
Easier said than done but my point is that we shouldn't blame others for our own inadequacies
I find in life that some people get me and some people donβt. I try to surround myself with people that do understand me. I know Iβm different, but everyone is different. Just have to find the right kind of different. :-)
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I can't read all of them but I can tell you're being very helpful :D