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Hello dads, I copy+pasted this question from your sister community.

So, long story short: I’ve been a musician for pretty much all my life. After a massive hearing loss, I picked up drums about a year ago and I’ve had so many great teachers myself. Now the local music school asked me if I could teach drums to their kids. They lost their former teacher due to old age.

I have rarely dealt with children. Sure, I was a tutor for some when it comes down to languages, but teaching music? That is so new to me and I’m actually afraid.

I am all gauntlets right now negotiating the deal here: I want espescially girls to learn a new intrument. They must be bored out of themselves just playing the flute, organ and piano.

So, my approach is probably this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VL5oBbriJuQ

:D

Any hints or tips you can give me? Please?

I’m a 38 years old lesbian with basically no clue whatsoever when it comes down to dealing with kids… ^^

EDIT: I’m afraid the girls want me to play pop music on the drums, and I get easily bored by that.

Watch one of my drumming teachers.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cHl_gsd0OR0

XD

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[–] Postmortal_Pop@lemmy.world 11 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I think you're over thinking it. After 6, teaching kids how to do things is like teaching excited adults how to do things, just with less swearing. Lay it out in simple terms, raise the bar as they get better, and remember that this is supposed to be fun. If you're worried about pop music, remember that this puts you in the perfect position to introduce them to new music too. Sure, you start with whatever they're listening to, then slip in a, "hey, this sounds a bit like [band name], you should give this a listen."

[–] TotallyNotSpezUpload@startrek.website 4 points 2 days ago (1 children)

This is such a good advice, thank you. I drum a lot in my free time and I'm always like: "Oh yeah, this song is actually based on another song. :D

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gjxhuOfHxX0

Here we goooo... :D

I just love him and his story telling.

[–] Postmortal_Pop@lemmy.world 3 points 2 days ago

See? You already got this!

Also I didn't wake up today thinking I needed a commentary on a music video but hot damn did every second of that put a smile on my face lol you're totally right about his story telling.

[–] Skullgrid@lemmy.world 6 points 2 days ago

This falls outside my expertise as dad, but into my wheelhouse as an ex child and hobby musician.

The reason why guitar but not piano stuck for me was the lack of relatable music at my level. Piano music being taught was boring and music I didn't care about. Simple guitar tabs for rock music made me keep at the guitar.

Try to relate the things you are teaching to songs you know the kids like. Learn the music the kids enjoy.

[–] sga@lemmings.world 3 points 2 days ago

I am not a drummer, but I did learn something closer to piano.

My 2 cents - Just go and teach. I would have loved if I were taught drums. The children who lost their last teacher also lost some of their recreational activties, and regaining that would be great. Also, DRUMS ARE FUN!.

Do not be afraid. If you think you are not going to do well, maybe try to teach it to some relative or friend or neighbours' kids first, and make sure it is a good experience for them.

[–] Nougat@fedia.io 4 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I'm neither a teacher nor a musician, but my son is a musician (including drums), has been to lessons as a child, has done some lessons for kids on guitar himself. He's also got a friend who is a brilliant drummer and has taken plenty of his own lessons as a kid.

I'll see if I can get them to provide some input for you here. Watch this space.

I would so love to listen to him <3

[–] gedaliyah@lemmy.world 3 points 2 days ago

The best way to build confidence as a teacher is to go in with a detailed plan and still remain flexible.

Having a good plan gives you a roadmap that you can always lean on when needed. You will be less flustered because you will always know the direction you want to go. It is the backbone that holds up your teaching.

Being flexible as a teacher is important because people learn in so many different ways and at different paces. That's especially important with kids because they don't necessarily know their own learning styles, and you never know what they are coming from before they enter the classroom.

It is so awesome that you are maintaining your musicianship and willing to share your enthusiasm with others!

[–] greengnu@slrpnk.net 3 points 2 days ago

Queen is the answer to most music questions; including teaching.