People who think the idiom is "how x looks like" rather than "what x looks like", which is more correct.
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on this subject.. I've been using linux for like..7ish years now?
when do I get my choker and stockings? Do I have to fill out a form or..?
No form, just whisper 'sudo apt-get install femboy-starter-kit' into the void and they will arrive within 24 hours
Void? The distro?
They should have been mailed by now... I'll check on it!
They don't want you to know, but you can actually buy that stuff without being invited to their secret club
Weird corner of the userbase you submerged yourself in
Most people I come across just wanted a phone that wasnβt made by Apple
Not pictured: elitist chuds that are really angry about the trans and furry community, and think Linux and other open source communities were ruined by code of conducts.
They are unwelcome, and we troll and downvote them every time
I have yet to meet a furry or trans IT person IRL. Is there just a higher concentration of them across the pond? Or is bullying a bigger issue there maybe?
What, do you ask your coworkers such questions? Unless it's their entire personality, it doesn't really get revealed in normal conversation...?
I worked with a guy for over a year and I never would have guessed it, until I saw FurAffinity come up as a suggestion in his browser once.
Of course I don't. Maybe I should've said "never met anybody obviously like this". Nobody knows about my political leanings or sexual preferences at work either.
I work in tech and there are a lot of trans people in the industry, 10% of my company are trans. I do live in a country where it is safe to be trans person, so maybe people are more open about it.
I have yet to meet a furry or trans IT person IRL.
Visit any comic or anime convension and you'll find the former in spades.
As to the later, idk. I've got three cousins who came out as Trans in the last five years or so.
There's definitely been a thaw around sex and gender over the last twenty years, and I can't help notice a certain number of "butch lesbians" and "sis men" just saying "fuck it, I'm the other gender and straight" and going all the way.
Or is bullying a bigger issue there maybe?
Bullying certainly. But also there hasn't been a large and active transgender community until fairly recently. People coming to terms with what being transgender means and how to self-actualize it wasn't possible in the homophobic atmosphere of the 20th century.
We'll see how long this revolution survives in the current century. Germany also had a boom/bust of transgenderism in the 1920s. Hopefully, Trumpism/Starmerism isn't a bell weather for that kind of reactionary reversal.
I can't help notice a certain number of "butch lesbians" and "sis men" just saying "fuck it, I'm the other gender and straight" and going all the way.
That's either phrased poorly, or a frankly insane take on gender.
I know a single person in a nearly 2 decade career. But I've seen this stereotype posted repeatedly. I think it's just niche, loud, sections of the internet wearing blinders, being in echo chambers, and wishful/fantasizing thinking.
Does Linux cause some amount of autism or is it the other way around? Nah, nevermind. It works and most other things in my life don't.
It's weird to think that Linux causes Autism, rather than to believe that Autism caused Linux.
This is the meme I needed. Thank you!
I think the abundance of trans women (β women who were raised as boys) is proof the social conditioning the only factor in why there aren't more women in STEM fields. Women love this shit just as much as men, but they're actively steered away from it.
(Yes, women face other challenges beyond lack of exposure, but I think all of them can be traced back to social factors as well, such as how men are conditioned to treat women.)
Broke my heart when my daughter at age 9 or 10 said one day that science was for boys. She went to a very progressive elementary school, I'm a software dev, and have no idea where that came from.
I have a different theory.
When you buy a desktop or laptop 99.9% of them will come with Windows preinstalled. Unless you get an Apple product, but than its 100% macOS.
So everyone running Linux has chosen to not go for the easy option, but spend some time and effort to install something they prefer.
So that immediately is a filter, where people that just go for the default easy option are filtered out.
So it makes total sense the Linux community has more people that are not afraid to choose a path they perfer instead of just doing what everyone else does, because doing something else is harder and for many people scary.
My experience (and this is purely anecdotal) is that the hacker/cybersecuruty community is also like this and has a lot of trans people compared to the total population.
Your theory doesn't really hold up, because with that explanation you'd expect an abundance of trans woman in many other traditionally male dominated fields as well.
The more likely explanation is that both being trans and being heavily invested in Linux to the point you visit conferences correlate to being neurodivergent.
That said the other part is true: there are probably many women who's talent and interest in STEM was never properly nurtured. From my personal experience in the field I can say that my female colleagues are just as competent as my good male colleagues, but I'm yet to encounter a grossly incompetent female colleague. My theory is that woman need higher dedication and talent to overcome the adversary that unfortunately still exists, resulting in a higher skill floor.
I think neurodivergence is only part of it. As someone different, but not trans, who often dealt with discrimination for seeming obviously gay, part of the reason is that when dealing with people you can be nice and do everything right and be treated horribly because of being different, but computers have no bias. So if you do things right with computers, you win. Even with other subjects like math or science, there is some level of interacting with people who may be prejudiced that just isn't there when you spend 30 hours figuring out some new computer thing on your own. Also your interactions may be remote and involve more smart logical people. With math, usually some learning as to how to deal with hard problems needs to be done by interacting with people not via email or forums or lists. My point is I think some trans women could just as easily become great engineers or great mathematicians or grear car repair techs, but the nature of learning computers reducing disrespect.
Your conclusion is probably correct, but I don't think your proof works. I'm going to play devil's advocate now: The thing to consider here is that these women were not just raised as boys, they were also born as boys. They may be on HRT now, but what if there are differences between how the male and female brains work that come from the Y chromosome? Or your hormonal balance in your formative years? I would hope not because that gives sexists way too much ammo, but we do not know for sure.
There's other potential reasons for all the trans women in software engineering too. Children who don't feel comfortable in their own identities are probably way less social - I don't have enough trans friends to confirm this is true, but I feel like it might be. Not being particularly popular in school drives you to gaming as a hobby because you don't need friends for that, and at least in the 90s and 00s that would usually mean tinkering with your PC (because Windows never fucking worked properly, did it now). This would also explain all the furries IMO.
but what if there are differences between how the male brain and female brains work that come from the Y chromosome?
This assumes that trans women are born with a male brain. The consensus of the scientific community says that this is false - being born with a female brain in a male body is how someone is born trans which further supports the argument you are responding to.
Iβm paraphrasing here but essentially the SRY gene (that stimulates production of androgens in a fetus) is released at a different time than the formation of the brain. So it is possible, but rare for someone to be born with a brain that doesnβt match their body and poof thatβs where trans people come from.
EDIT:
I thought that the last state of the art opinion was that there is no reliable difference between the brains of the sexes? I am by no means informed on this.
Could that mean that at some point one could detect transgender people using medical testing?
I believe I recall reading something about this becoming a possible future ethical dilemma but I donβt have a source to cite right now.
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As a dark-hooded sweater guy, I'm feeling personally insulted.
Yeah but are you also wearing stockings?
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I'll never forget dialling into a work meeting with the corporate infosec team who we needed some guidance from.
Their rep shows up and it's a fem-presenting person with pink cat-ear headphones.
I'm like oh fuck they sent the big guns, this is exactly who we needed to talk to. And I was right, we got exactly what we needed.
The old adage "The worst-dressed nerd in the meeting is the most important one" could use some updating for the modern era to include trans folks with really good fits...
I read that last word wrong a few times
We also appreciate those. But not actively, at least not while in a professional setting. That'd be rude.
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Furry sysadmin and trans girl reporting here lol
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