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This post is "FYI only" for blahaj lemmy members. It is not a debate, and is not intended for non blahaj lemmy users to weigh in and offer opinions.

I recently received reports of a feddit.uk user espousing transphobia. Specifically, this was a feddit.uk user refusing to use the word cis, repeating the "adult human female" dog whistle, and claiming that trans women are not women. I approached a member of the feddit.uk admin team and raised my concerns and sought clarification of their stance on posts like this, where the transphobia is mostly dogwhistles, and "civil disagreement" on the validity of trans folk.

I was told by the feddit.uk admin that their preferred response is this kind of transphobia is to "sort it out through discussion and voting". However, the comments in question are currently more upvoted than downvoted, and little "sorting out" has occurred. The posts remain in place.

At this point, the admin stopped responding to my messages despite being active elsewhere on lemmy. When it became clear they were ignoring my messages and had no intention of removing the posts in question, I made the decision to defederate the instance.

I know some folk agree with the feddit.uk admins approach of pushback through discussion and voting, but this instance is not designed to be that kind of space. Blahaj lemmy is meant to be a place where we can avoid the rampant transphobia universally visible on nearly every other social media platform, and where we can exist without needing to debate our right to do so.

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[–] SharkWeek@lemmy.blahaj.zone 63 points 1 day ago

Blahaj user and former Brit here ... well done Ada for consistency and transparency regarding this.

The whole "let it play out" attitude really says it all, it shows cowardice and a lack of leadership ... kind of like the current prime minister.

[–] Korhaka@sopuli.xyz 20 points 1 day ago (4 children)

trans women are not women

Wasn't this a recent court ruling in the UK? Which isn't great.

I don't know all of the terminology, but the entire argument over it just seems so stupid, how does letting trans people exist bother you in any way?

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[–] Anarki_@lemmy.blahaj.zone 43 points 1 day ago

Based Blåhaj admin is based.

[–] Zizzy@lemmy.blahaj.zone 29 points 1 day ago

Common Ada W

[–] neatchee@lemmy.world 57 points 1 day ago

Another non-blahaj here to say FUCK YEAH, Ada.

Deplatforming works. Demanding civility from people under attack by disingenuous, insincere "intellectuals" is so much more than just tone policing; it's direct enablement of disenfranchisement and allowing the spread of harm.

It's easy to be bad. It's hard to be good. When bad people are allowed to express their evil ideologies, it is much easier for people to pick up the evil than for the righteous to defend the good.

We cannot be tolerant of intolerance.

So, again, FUCK YEAH, Ada. You rock for protecting your users AND the rest of the world by contributing to the deplatforming of bigots.

[–] SmackemWittadic@lemmy.world 84 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (3 children)

I'm not a blåhaj user, but I really hope the feddit.uk mindset on this doesn't spread to other instances.

Why do divisive people have to care so much about letting people do what they want if it doesn't affect them? What someone wants to do with their body does NOT affect you, but your open derogatory statements about them DOES affect them!

[–] fxomt@lemmy.dbzer0.com 20 points 1 day ago (5 children)

Some people will endlessly bicker about the most stupid shit. Like, who the fuck even cares if someone wants to be a woman or a man? That's like the least problematic thing nowadays.

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[–] P00ptart@lemmy.world 32 points 1 day ago (1 children)

This has always been my stance. If it doesn't affect me, then I am always on the side of people's rights. Automatically. Even if it does affect me, I'm still more likely to be in favor of people's rights. Especially if the people in question are losing rights. I simply don't understand people who think loss of rights stops at people they don't like. It just doesn't work that way. A loss of ANY right against ANYONE is a personal loss of rights.

For instance, I'm not LGBTQ+. But I will fight like hell for their rights. Not just because it's the right thing to do, but because I know what happens when the LGBTQ+ people are gone. These are innocent people who just want to live their life and are under constant threat from physical and legal harm. The fact that Christians get so up in arms about even seeing two men kiss, or holding hands pisses me off on a level I can't describe. Especially when you consider the huge proportion of child molestation in the church. And it is very common that that child molestation was against a child of the same sex as the adult.

I'm not saying there's a causation there, but there's definitely correlation. And that correlation isn't homosexuality of the abuser. The correlation is power. Teaching, clergy, Hollywood, right wing, left wing, it happens on both sides, on all levels, and of moderates as well. But the one thing that always unifies EVERY. SINGLE. ONE. is power. 100%, every single time.

However, Republicans tend to have power/Dom fantasies at a FAR higher rate than Democrats. And again, I'm not saying that's a causation, but it is a correlation.

Power fantasies are insanely dangerous, even if the person is a "lowly" cook. It's potentially civilization ending if the person has the power of the US military. And I've yet to ever hear a Democrat fantasize about being president. Honestly even thinking about it... Fuck that. I can't handle that kind of responsibility. But I guess if trump "can" do it, then I could as well.

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[–] fxomt@lemmy.dbzer0.com 20 points 1 day ago

Disappointing to hear from the feddit.uk. Hopefully they get their shit together, i like their admins.

You kick ass Ada. Thanks for all you do.

[–] 2hundredpancakes@lemmy.blahaj.zone 38 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Thanks for doing what you do.

It's ridiculous we are still having to deal with this in 2025. Just yesterday I had to see someone using the tslur as a "joke" under a .world post. Mods removed it. It's not hard to be decent, although some people decide to make it look like an impossible task. As far as I'm concerned, hate speech is not free speech...

[–] Zero22xx@lemmy.blahaj.zone 23 points 1 day ago (1 children)

The way I see it, free speech doesn't mean freedom from consequences for what you say. You're free to walk up to the friend group and act like a jackass and personally insult everyone. And they're free to tell you to fk off and stop being friends with you and talking to you. That's not an infringement on your right to free speech, that's consequences for your actions.

These 'free speech' people act like the real world is this place where you can just approach and interrupt any conversation and enter any club without following the rules. They act like groups of like minded people getting together to share interests and ideas without wanting to constantly defend themselves and 'debate' their interests and beliefs is some new thing brought to us by the woke agenda.

And so they think social media should be this place where you can say whatever to whoever, wherever you want and if anyone has a problem with that, they're just anti 'free speech' woke libs or some shit.

The fact that they're more concerned with being able to spout off harmful words than they are about the actual wellbeing of people says it all. They hate consequences because they know exactly what the consequences of their actions should be. Never concerned with giving others the same legitimacy they whinge about getting; only about taking it away.

[–] Smorty@lemmy.blahaj.zone 21 points 1 day ago

thank u adaaaaa! luv u!

[–] Rozauhtuno@lemmy.blahaj.zone 26 points 1 day ago

Stay classy, TERF Island.

Thanks for doing good moderation, honestly it sucks that certain admin teams act like this and dont take bigotry seriously.

Unfortunate that you had to do that, but it sounds to me like you make the right call. Keep being great 💖🤍🩵

[–] JennyLaFae@lemmy.blahaj.zone 20 points 1 day ago

I appreciate you 🫶

[–] jan_Melisa055@lemmy.blahaj.zone 62 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Of course it had to be feddit.uk

[–] ImADifferentBird@lemmy.blahaj.zone 72 points 1 day ago (1 children)

They don't call it TERF Island for nothing.

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[–] Kit@lemmy.blahaj.zone 48 points 1 day ago (3 children)

What's "adult human female" referring to? Asking so I can keep an eye out for this in the future

[–] ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone 79 points 1 day ago (1 children)

It's a transphobic dog whistle. Popularised by UK transphobes. The implication is that trans women aren't women, and when you see it used, that's what they're really saying.

[–] Kit@lemmy.blahaj.zone 40 points 1 day ago

Thanks Ada. It's exhausting (emotionally and spiritually) to try to keep up with the ways in which people express their hate for us, but it's certainly essential for keeping ourselves safe, so I'm thankful to have learned something new.

[–] Catoblepas@lemmy.blahaj.zone 45 points 1 day ago (18 children)

Adult human female is a dog whistle used by TERFs (and transphobes more broadly) to make it clear that they are specifically excluding trans women from the definition of womanhood; that is, it’s shorthand for saying that ‘adult human females’ are the only category of person that can be called a woman.

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[–] Delta_V@lemmy.world 48 points 1 day ago (1 children)

That's fair.

People like that will say "just block them" with one fork of their tongue, and then "sort it out through discussion and voting" with the other fork.

[–] Tar_alcaran@sh.itjust.works 20 points 1 day ago

People like that will say "just block them" with one fork of their tongue,

Aka: "i just supply the space, I have no responsibility to make sure it's actually safe"

"sort it out through discussion and voting"

Aka: "and I don't intend to protect anyone, not my problem if you're getting attacked".

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