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This post is "FYI only" for blahaj lemmy members. It is not a debate, and is not intended for non blahaj lemmy users to weigh in and offer opinions.

I recently received reports of a feddit.uk user espousing transphobia. Specifically, this was a feddit.uk user refusing to use the word cis, repeating the "adult human female" dog whistle, and claiming that trans women are not women. I approached a member of the feddit.uk admin team and raised my concerns and sought clarification of their stance on posts like this, where the transphobia is mostly dogwhistles, and "civil disagreement" on the validity of trans folk.

I was told by the feddit.uk admin that their preferred response is this kind of transphobia is to "sort it out through discussion and voting". However, the comments in question are currently more upvoted than downvoted, and little "sorting out" has occurred. The posts remain in place.

At this point, the admin stopped responding to my messages despite being active elsewhere on lemmy. When it became clear they were ignoring my messages and had no intention of removing the posts in question, I made the decision to defederate the instance.

I know some folk agree with the feddit.uk admins approach of pushback through discussion and voting, but this instance is not designed to be that kind of space. Blahaj lemmy is meant to be a place where we can avoid the rampant transphobia universally visible on nearly every other social media platform, and where we can exist without needing to debate our right to do so.

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[–] driving_crooner@lemmy.eco.br 28 points 1 day ago

I'm coming from a small brazillian instance and we're also getting attacks on the brazillian trans community, on our case is the medical association, dictating that doctors couldn't treat trans kids.

I asked my admin to support you and to de federate them until they change their policy, hope other instances join too.

[–] 0x0f@lemmy.blahaj.zone 19 points 1 day ago

thanks ada uwu

[–] jac@lemmy.blahaj.zone 73 points 1 day ago

As a denizen of terf island myself, all I can say is; fucking good! Our enemies hide behind statements like "just asking questions", but there's no room for debate when it comes to people's rights and look where that thinking has gotten us.

The time for debate is over. I want my rights back.

[–] curbstickle@lemmy.dbzer0.com 197 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (5 children)

Obviously I'm not on blahaj, but I think the decision is pretty on point for the goals of blahaj.

It also makes me disappointed in feddit.uk. "Leave it to discussion/votes" is bullshit and just support for the behavior.

Edit: The admin responded elsewhere with "we want to make sure we comply with the law".

My comment remains unchanged. Allowing this is support. Fuck your bullshit law. You're explicitly supporting this bullshit by your inaction.

[–] Vanilla_PuddinFudge@infosec.pub 33 points 1 day ago (1 children)

"we want to make sure we comply with the law"

on here?

...Christ, why? lmao

They must think they're the main character of lemmy or someshit.

[–] curbstickle@lemmy.dbzer0.com 27 points 1 day ago

Just as bad as Lemmy.world with their admins being totally pro lawyers who just haven't taken the bar, they'd totally pass though.

Maybe worse, we'll see.

[–] Tar_alcaran@sh.itjust.works 34 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (2 children)

"meh, those things sound like work"

-- feddit.uk admin

[–] meh@lemmy.blahaj.zone 10 points 1 day ago

i tried to tell them it sounded more like cowardice than laziness but they just wouldnt hear it.

[–] dumblederp@aussie.zone 29 points 1 day ago

They had the time to make a new rule about no generative AI content but couldn't work this out? Stuff em.

[–] SCmSTR@lemmy.blahaj.zone 85 points 1 day ago (7 children)

Right? Imagine if you said that about the rights for like black women or something? Like, come ON. It's 2025, we KNOW these behaviors are bigoted, rules are way too chill with letting shit like that fly, and is part of the reason it's so prolific now - it's not being treated like the hate speech that it is, and people in power in certain places are like "no I'm not sure we need to discuss it again". It's just gross and horrible and makes me feel so fucking helpless sometimes when a space is dominated with shitties like that.

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[–] Korhaka@sopuli.xyz 17 points 1 day ago (2 children)

trans women are not women

Wasn't this a recent court ruling in the UK? Which isn't great.

I don't know all of the terminology, but the entire argument over it just seems so stupid, how does letting trans people exist bother you in any way?

[–] oftheair@lemmy.blahaj.zone 20 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

Yes, but the best thing is that it's not, like they are claiming, law. It is merely an interpretation. It doesn't stop us from doing anything we were doing previously though ultimately a lot of transphobes and business will inteprate it that way, sadly. Plus there is some whisperings of it meaning certain legal things but it isn't that yet. The Equality Act needs to be updated anyway and if it was this would make the supreme court's ruling null and void.

Even if it does mean new laws most of us will probably break them anyway as unjust laws are not worth paying any attention to.

[–] Korhaka@sopuli.xyz 6 points 21 hours ago (1 children)

For a positive perspective on it the equality act doesn't stop you including more groups than it specifies. So society can advance without needing the government to keep up, as long as enough of society agrees that can allow putting pressure on businesses when they don't keep up.

[–] oftheair@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 20 hours ago

Good point! Thank you!

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[–] SharkWeek@lemmy.blahaj.zone 58 points 1 day ago

Blahaj user and former Brit here ... well done Ada for consistency and transparency regarding this.

The whole "let it play out" attitude really says it all, it shows cowardice and a lack of leadership ... kind of like the current prime minister.

[–] Zizzy@lemmy.blahaj.zone 27 points 1 day ago

Common Ada W

[–] Anarki_@lemmy.blahaj.zone 42 points 1 day ago

Based Blåhaj admin is based.

[–] neatchee@lemmy.world 54 points 1 day ago

Another non-blahaj here to say FUCK YEAH, Ada.

Deplatforming works. Demanding civility from people under attack by disingenuous, insincere "intellectuals" is so much more than just tone policing; it's direct enablement of disenfranchisement and allowing the spread of harm.

It's easy to be bad. It's hard to be good. When bad people are allowed to express their evil ideologies, it is much easier for people to pick up the evil than for the righteous to defend the good.

We cannot be tolerant of intolerance.

So, again, FUCK YEAH, Ada. You rock for protecting your users AND the rest of the world by contributing to the deplatforming of bigots.

[–] SmackemWittadic@lemmy.world 78 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (4 children)

I'm not a blåhaj user, but I really hope the feddit.uk mindset on this doesn't spread to other instances.

Why do divisive people have to care so much about letting people do what they want if it doesn't affect them? What someone wants to do with their body does NOT affect you, but your open derogatory statements about them DOES affect them!

[–] fxomt@lemmy.dbzer0.com 17 points 1 day ago (4 children)

Some people will endlessly bicker about the most stupid shit. Like, who the fuck even cares if someone wants to be a woman or a man? That's like the least problematic thing nowadays.

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[–] fxomt@lemmy.dbzer0.com 19 points 1 day ago

Disappointing to hear from the feddit.uk. Hopefully they get their shit together, i like their admins.

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