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[–] squirrel@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 21 hours ago (1 children)

The NYT had an article from 2006 which described a very similar "training". It goes into greater detail. Here is an archived version without paywall: https://archive.ph/n4GPa

[–] ryedaft@sh.itjust.works 2 points 15 hours ago

The book is good as well

[–] AFC1886VCC@reddthat.com 8 points 21 hours ago (1 children)

Weak. Submissives, come to me and I will treat you as lesser than a dog. You may not be useless, but you are worthless 😎

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[–] orcrist@lemm.ee 1 points 14 hours ago

The problem is not the actions. The problem is your mentality. If you're trying to train a human being, that sounds pretty f****** terrible. On the other hand, if you're trying to support for and care for them, it doesn't sound terrible.

Based on the wording, it sounds like the former, but perhaps you're just trying to make your post dramatic for the internet and the actual situation is more like the latter. We don't know, but you do, so act accordingly.

[–] PopcornPrincess@lemmy.world 7 points 21 hours ago

Isn’t this just reinforcement, like reinforcement vs punishment from behavioral psychology? It works.

[–] Nougat@fedia.io 6 points 21 hours ago

I don't see a problem here.

[–] tipicaldik@lemmy.world 5 points 21 hours ago* (last edited 21 hours ago) (2 children)

62yo male here thinks she's a damn genius... maybe she should like, make some of those tiktoks or something...

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[–] Fleur_@aussie.zone -1 points 16 hours ago* (last edited 16 hours ago) (2 children)

Yeah I think that's pretty gross. This person stated that the person they are dating is emotionally unavailable and has potentially been abused as a child. But because they find them pretty, they decided to manipulate a person like they manipulate animals for selfish purposes. (Both are bad!) Their partner probably needs therapy not to be emotionally manipulated by their partner.

[–] psion1369@lemmy.world 3 points 16 hours ago (2 children)

I am asking this more out of curiosity than criticism, but how would you deal with someone who is emotionally unavailable, shows signs of childhood abuse, but treats you pretty fairly?

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[–] Etterra@discuss.online -4 points 17 hours ago

Hey if it works out works. She is an asshole for not using proper grammar and punctuation though.

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