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[–] barneypiccolo@lemm.ee 20 points 6 days ago

Children, this was the Internet prior to 1995.

[–] Robbity@lemm.ee 14 points 6 days ago (6 children)

Fwiw, don't punish your kids, it's not an effective way to get them to change their behavior.

[–] BreadOven@lemmy.world 22 points 6 days ago

Blind one day stew.

[–] trashgirlfriend@lemmy.world 23 points 6 days ago

One day blinding stew

[–] itslilith@lemmy.blahaj.zone 15 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago)

A stew that makes you blind for one day

[–] Irelephant@lemm.ee 13 points 6 days ago

Stew that blinds you for a day.

[–] Valmond@lemmy.world 12 points 6 days ago

1 day blind stew

[–] Spacehooks@reddthat.com 1 points 6 days ago (3 children)

All the beatings taught me pain is temporary and this is the worst they can do. I just have to outlast. They called me metal butt cause I stopped caring about the belt and hangers. Gma upgraded to pans.

[–] wowwoweowza@lemmy.world 2 points 6 days ago (1 children)

Tough though you may be, I too experienced wire coat hangers and the only relief I managed from those memories in adulthood has been EMDR. Look it up. It works.

[–] Spacehooks@reddthat.com 1 points 5 days ago (1 children)

I don't think its toughness. Its that I didn’t care about punishment. What they going to do hit me more? Take away tv? At some point it has to stop. Just have to outlast. That doesn't mean I purposely sort to break rules. They just defaulted to punishment so often it lost meaning to me. It was like taking a shower daily. I hated it but w/e. Now pain causes joker like laughter in me. Weird how mind adapts.

[–] wowwoweowza@lemmy.world 2 points 3 days ago

Please research EMDR. Honestly, it helped me from a very similar past.

[–] Malfeasant@lemm.ee 2 points 6 days ago (1 children)

I laughed when my mom broke her bread paddle across my back...

[–] Spacehooks@reddthat.com 1 points 5 days ago

Hope she didn't use the pointy part afterwards.

[–] theneverfox@pawb.social 1 points 5 days ago (1 children)

I wanted to please. I suppressed my own needs, because I so badly didn't want to be the problem. Harsh words were just as bad as a belt to me, so when I got the belt (unfairly, because their day was worse not because I was) I learned none of it was about me. So very quickly, I resented all of it

And now, suddenly as an adult I've again become the fuck up to them. I never asked for anything - I take what's given, I open up when I'm pressed, but I just live.

And still, they treat me as a failure. I made six figures before I was 25 - which was my stupid goal. I wanted to die. Now and I make a fraction of that to work a few hours a week. Doing something that matters. I don't want a partner, because I don't want to be tempted to bring a child into this world.

Nothing will ever be good enough, because I don't share their values. It sucks because I had a panic attack the last couple times my parents called me... They always increase my stress with made up fears

[–] Spacehooks@reddthat.com 1 points 5 days ago

You sound like my mom with her mother. Breaks my heart to watch it for decades. She refuses to admit that her mom is incapable of loving her the way she wants. At one point mom gave Grandma whole paycheck and got an allowance. This is like 10 years ago a ~50 yo women. All of us are going wtf. Result was no change, constant verbal abuse continues. I could write a book but short is Mom will do anything to keep the peace.

I always say I don't understand why mom or grandma are how they are because actually had a loving mom. Love your kids.

[–] booly@sh.itjust.works 12 points 6 days ago

Artist name is truewagner, posts a lot of amazing flyers like this.

[–] Olgratin_Magmatoe@slrpnk.net 12 points 6 days ago

Looks like a job for a stew that makes you blind for a day

[–] zarkanian@sh.itjust.works 8 points 6 days ago

Yeah, this is one of the weirder memes.

[–] Spacehooks@reddthat.com 3 points 6 days ago

I misread as 1 day binding stew and figured it was food poisoning.

[–] Yoga@lemmy.ca 133 points 1 week ago (7 children)

Dog shit parenting 101: How do I punish my child for X?

Effective parenting: Why is my kid doing X?

P.S. Step 1 is asking them.

[–] mranachi@aussie.zone 10 points 6 days ago

Why did you bite hair? " I don't know"

[–] BreadOven@lemmy.world 6 points 6 days ago

1 day blind stew.

[–] ZILtoid1991@lemmy.world -1 points 6 days ago

She's likely autistic, giving her something better to chew and bite will be very effective.

[–] Not_Dav3@lemmy.world 137 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

9 times out of 10, they're just craving the 1 day blinding stew so it's easier to just feed it to them any time they misbehave, you know ? ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

[–] Agent641@lemmy.world 5 points 6 days ago (1 children)

She's eaten six helpings now I am concerned.

[–] trashgirlfriend@lemmy.world 6 points 6 days ago

Six day blinding stew

[–] Toribor@corndog.social 103 points 1 week ago

Yes, but step 2 is still '1 day blinding stew'.

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[–] CitizenKong@lemmy.world 106 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Well, as a German, I would advise that she be should be cursed so that hair is constantly growing out of her mouth. Haha. The end.

[–] TempermentalAnomaly@lemmy.world 79 points 1 week ago (7 children)

This shit fucked my head up in high school. As an American studying German, I did not expect fairy tales to be so ... This.

Don't suck your thumbs children.

Ah i remember these stories, my grandma read them to me when i was a child. I thought "they are so unhinged, maybe them being unhinged is the point".

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[–] jaybone@lemmy.zip 50 points 1 week ago (2 children)

Feed her a stew made of hair.

[–] Critical_Thinker@lemm.ee 7 points 6 days ago

feed her stew made by a blind person's hair for 1 day

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