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Dealing with people who have a problem with me, but will refuse to tell me why. Either tell me, so we can discuss it or stop wasting my time. I no longer have the patience with the whole "read between the lines" bullshit.
wanker!! j/k. your ok. your cool :)
I'm still trying to learn this. It bugs me knowing someone has some problem with me, yet won't tell me what it is. It's the not knowing why that kills me.
McDonalds. It's the shittiest fast food place and maybe the most unjustifiably expensive.
Slackware Linux. For a while I thought, when it boots up KDE with a browser you're basically done, and it's kinda cool running the oldest surviving Linux distro.
The simplicity under the hood is kinda cool, too.
But every single thing I tried to get working on top of the base install (Flatpak, Steam, Slackbuilds, energy management, etc...) was a fight, and at some point I thought "fuck this, all these issues were solved 15 years ago by others."
Yeah, I get you. I hug very hard to the more popular Linux distros to be more user-ready than what feels like 98% of the rest of the Linux distros out there. Where you've got to have a Google search ready at every turn in hopes enough information is connected to resolve any and every problem you may have because you picked a distro that either isn't supported well or poor documentation or everyone else gives it zero fucks.
Windows. I am tired of the constant enshitification. I was waiting for it's end of support because of games and the extra work needed to make them work on Linux (had to have the support of two friends who know Linux to try and get my steam to actually recognize my games and run them with proton, and it took 3 nights of help to find the issues and then fix them to get it working consistently) but I am so glad I'm doing this now, I'm already enjoying Linux more than windows and the issues I'm having are because of companies like discord not making streaming unnecessarily a pain
My job. I resigned earlier this week after 8 1/2 years.
i'm about to do something similar and for a job that is a 56% percent pay cut for me; but it's as far away as i can find from the profit seeking evil that has characterized my most recent jobs while still employing my skillset.
Congratulations! I am working out my notice period of my job right now, I am taking December to regroup and will begin job hunting in January. It feels so liberating!
I hear you on the streaming sticks. 10 years ago, you could throw a Chromecast in your suitcase, plug it into a hotel TV, and cast anything you wanted from your phone. Now, if you try to do that, you have to set the Chromecast up through the Google home app, tell it what "room" it's in, but then you can't cause you arent at your "home", so you have to set up a new "home", and then that doesn't usually work, so you just quit and read a book instead.
Enshittification at it's finest!
The way I solved this was by setting up a hotspot on my phone with the same SSID as my home network. The Chromecast doesn't know the difference.
Google. It's been a long process but I've been degoogling little by little for a multitude of reasons.
The Witcher 3 and Cyberpunk 2077. I just can't get into them at all. I've tried half a dozen times and just got bored after a few hours of gameplay time.
I've accepted that I just don't like them. Games should be fun, not feel like a chore to play.
Felt the same. I dropped the Witcher after 10 hours. A solid try, in my estimation. I usually quit games around the 2 hour mark if I'm not feeling it.
I was in a bit of a depressive rut when I started c2077 so I just kinda plowed through the beginning not knowing if I didn't enjoy it because of the game itself or if I was on the edge of offing myself. Whichever reason it was, after the world opened up a bit I started to fall in love with the characters and story about 15 hours in. Which is a huge ask. If you're into games as a storytelling medium, it's a 10/10. On a mechanical level, it's about a 7/10 for me. It's ok throughout, and even really great for some of the set pieces.
For me it's Kingdom Come: Deliverance. I just gave up again after bouncing off it for like the third time. On paper it's exactly the sort of thing I should be into, but that game just doesn't respect your time.
I've had to drop Monster Hunter World, it's a game that I was so enamored by to play, had it on my wishlist for months and months. Seen many of my friends play it. I really dig what's there. I finally had it gifted to me by a friend and I gave it an honest try.
Who at Capcom, decided it was the best idea to not give that game a way to pause the game or skip the cut scenes? Like, I hope that person is fired because that is how you just brush away all of the patience one has for waiting for things to finally give you back control.
And it's because of that, I now have to leave it collecting digital dust.
There were also many popular games that people have recommended so highly to me before that I just got and tried playing and ended up not liking. I ended up finding myself revisiting free games, older games and vice versa than playing what people recommended me. I'm sorry but a lot of AAA games are just boring experiences that have drained all of the good ideas that could've been much more.
My issue with MH was the extensive grinding. Getting a full set of armor from a monster could take dozens of kills, with each kill being 30-60 minutes. If I knew I could get it after a flat 10 or even 20 victories it'd be fine, but you're at the mercy of 5% drop rates sometimes.
Keeping in touch with people. I have no idea what causes it but people just stop talking to me. I've lost touch with so many friends and family members over the years that in a lot of ways its just not worth the effort to make new ones. Which gets pretty lonely but I don't see an alternative.
I realize that part of it is my fault as I'm not the best at keeping up with people either, but I at least make the effort with the few friends and family I'm trying to keep so I don't lose absolutely everyone. The only exception is work colleagues and my mother who I have a strained relationship with.
I'm sure the work colleagues will fade if I ever leave the company, as has happened every single time before. I'm sure you can guess why my relationship with my mother isn't something I necessarily want to improve.
I've received multiple reasons that people never message, usually some variant of forgetting to respond due to being too busy. But what's especially frustrating are the people that say, I think of you often and things of that nature, but that never seems to translate into, "let's see how they're doing by reaching out". Adding to this is how I've never had much luck making friends so it's not like I've ever had a large pool to draw from.
My gripe is with the androidTV/roku/etc being built into the TV. Just give me a big monitor that can switch inputs, that's it. I install TVs for work and I can't count the amount of times the TV is just trashed because the software is screwed up and you aren't even able to switch it to HDMI1 and carry on like it doesn't exist. It's hot garbage, keep that shit on little HDMI sticks that you can throw away without throwing away the whole TV. Seriously, your TVs life gets cut in half if you have a whole OS on it. Bring back dumb firmware.
Dumb TVs exist, and they're 5x the price of smart TVs.
Ads and data mining subsidizes the hardware cost. If you want cheap TVs you get spyware and ads.
Dont forget Roku's patent for a way to show you ads over anything you plug into the hdmi.
My roku tv is never connecting to the internet again
Doordash and other similar services. My order is wrong 9 times out of 10, and the price isn't justifiable. I'd rather save the frustration and money and just make ramen or similar meals when I've been smoking or drinking and shouldn't drive to fulfill the munchies.
I think I’m at my wit’s end with “smart” things.
Roomba? It takes less time to just vacuum the place than it does for the fucking vacuum to realize it’s been humping the same chair leg for most of its battery charge.
Assistants?
“Hey Google, open the bedroom blinds”
“Sorry, that device hasn’t been configured yet”
“Hey Google, open the bedroom blinds”
“Sure, turning 2 lights on”
“Hey Google, open the bedroom blinds”
“Sure, opening the blinds”
I gave up on “smart” devices after giving them zero chances. I’ve never bought one.
Roomba? It takes less time to just vacuum the place than it does for the fucking vacuum to realize it’s been humping the same chair leg for most of its battery charge.
If you are willing to put in some work, Valetudo is fantastic: https://valetudo.cloud/
My two robot vacuums have been working for 5 years with no intervention other than emptying the bin every 2 weeks and dusting off the sensors when it complains.
Assistants?
Same as above, if you are willing to put in some work, Home Assistant includes a voice assistant and they ship devices now with everything preinstalled so you can plug in and go: https://www.home-assistant.io/green/
I feel the same, but my anger is scoped to cloud-connected “smart” things.
Like you, I can’t stand my iRobot gear. My Roomba hasn’t updated its map in over a year because it always has “some problems” (probably due to pushing everything to the jank us-east-1
data center).
On the other hand my recent Aqara gear is very nice but it took me time to finally call it quits on Z-Wave beforehand.
Smart-anything is just a dumb novelty design because rich techie users are about as wowed as dangling plastic toy keys infront of an infant. Nearly nothing is anymore useful when it becomes 'smart' and largely gets that title because of it's capability to connect to the internet and just become another app for data-farming services to nag you over.
These things are just also another way to rob people more money because they're going to have more models, the company is going to talk down to you for being filthy and not upgrading. You're going to spend a lot of time dealing with a lot of variables that people already have presented for having a smart device and this is where the argument of "old is always better" comes into play.
Life. I tried several times to make it better and every time it "gets better" it actually gets worse than it was before. I was misdiagnosed as the blue puzzle piece and even though I literally am not that crap I'm still practically stalked by adult protective service even after changing my name and using a ups store as my "address". I never tell anyone about the MISdiagnosis because they never believe it was a mistake. Yet a lot of people still infantilize me and talk to me like I'm minutes old. These people would treat a literal preschooler like they're more mature than me. I can keep running but I can't hide from that damn puzzle piece. And honestly I'm tired of running. 🥱🔫
Everyone can like or dislike anything, but that stupid puzzle piece made me like or dislike stuff. No, lostwave is not a "special interest" it's just a thing I enjoy. I don't play video games because of that stupid puzzle piece, I play games because they're FUN. I made games for a hobby, not because that stupid fucking puzzle piece made me like programming. You don't need to talk to other people about me in front of me like I'm an animal, about why these things "make me so happy".
I hate how I'm perpetually too old AND too young for everything. Everything family friendly is age regression, and everything else is "not suitable" for me. Smash Bros and Overwatch were both, a game for little kids, and a game with too much violence. But if I don't enjoy anything anymore, that stupid puzzle piece is why, and not all the bullshit I got from literally everyone in my life.
I give up on life because I'm sick and tired of living as a puppet controlled by a disorder I don't even have. I'm tired of fighting to be human. I'm done.
Hey man/girl/w/e,
I'm repressing the boomer thing to tell you it's going to be all right. I can't promise that.
I can just say that fighting the system is hard, I tried. Try work with it sometimes and see how that works out.
Also don't let anyone tell you thingsa are/aren't suitable. What makes you happy is very important to you. I started playing tf2 when I was in my late 20's and met a lot of people and had a blast.'
I feel, though, that my examples might not mean much to you now, and that's ok. Just know that I felt like what you described here and I managed to get it a bit better (i'm in my 40s now). Not everything is great, but I hop eyou find someone you can share some of your life with, that makes it easier.
Boomer out.
btw your username is great
My parents and their endless bigotry.
Lemmy.
Electronics with bad interfaces.
Either make your shit user friendly, or I'm returning it. If I have Google how to do basic things F U. You and your product isn't worth my time.
Same with subscription fees.
- Rombas. I had a knock off, so take my opinion with a grain of salt, but it was just easier with a regular vacuum, and faster. I also feel like a normal vacuum, currently, does a better job
- Streaming services. I got lazy, but them breaking apart everything into services has gotten me back to basic. Laptop and an HDMI I cord, I can handle the rest. 🏴☠️
- Working. However, I recently changed departments, so that will keep me quiet for awhile.
Dual-booting, modding, or debloating Windows. And anything but the LTSC edition. It'll all fall apart within a year given the nature of Windows 10 updates. Projects like Ameliorated, while well-intentioned, are a security mess waiting to happen since you have to disable any and all updates.
So I bit the bullet on an extra laptop, exiled any Windows-specific projects, files, etc. to it and slapped on a copy of LTSC. I consider the machine compromised and only use it for what absolutely depends on Windows.