50% divorce rate. 97% of people (in the US) don't wait till marriage, so most of us have multiple sexual partners prior to the one we stick with. Many have children with more than one partner.

How can anyone look at the world and think, yeah, there's one that's meant for everyone and just one?

Also hope I don't come across disrespectful. If you do believe in monogamy, I am interested in hearing from you. I'm just buzzed and thinking about my own love life and being curt

Edit: Speaking to the idea that it's the "natural order" or default. Not that it can't work in individual circumstances, especially when we've been programmed for decades

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[–] dudinax@programming.dev 1 points 1 year ago

People fall in love for keeps. Not everyone but many do.

[–] Kit@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 1 year ago

My first several relationships were just trial and error of figuring out what works. I ended up meeting a widower and we both knew exactly what we wanted and expected in a partner and expressed it clearly to each other. We moved in together after just a few months and have enjoyed a beautiful life together.

"The One" is just a person that you can be happy with because you express your needs and they meet them, and they express their needs and you meet them. And you're both willing to put in the work to get through the times when needs can't be met.

[–] NumbersCanBeFun@kbin.social -1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Monogamous relationships are a dead concept. I think it was fine when the average life expectancy was like 40 to 60 years old but with how long minders humans live, I think it’s okay to have two to three serious long term relationships with people. The other reason was to take care of your kids but even if dad or mom runs off these days, they have to pay child support. My dad tried to do that and he got bitched slapped by the court for failing to pay 🤣

The reason I think having 2 to 3 serious relationships is okay is based on time. Think about this in the terms of decades. If you’ve spent you’re entire 20’s with someone you’re not the same person you were when you turn 30. It’s okay to evolve, change, grow and REALIZE that person is no longer compatible with you.

Despite my argument that a decade is long, as a man entering his mid 40’s I can tell you for a fact that my decades feel pretty short. It’s kind of scary to realize I’ve wasted so much time with the wrong people but I’m glad I’m with the one I have now. She was worth the wait and the bullshit I had to endure.

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