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Even if you get good at that thing, the compliments won't subdue the imposter syndrome.
Yep. It's a nasty thing the brain does, it puts all foreign information through a filter made from convictions. If you're convinced that you do not deliver enough and are not worthy of love, your brain will make the wildest explanations for when someone just proves the opposite to you instead of just taking that at face value. If that person then maybe gives up at some point or just has a bad day your brain will be all like "Ah! See! Told you!"
Good thing is, you can train yourself out of that by doing parallel, rational analysis and explaining the result to yourself. Repeatedly, often. That is fucking hard though and you will fall back to the old mode when under stress. Keep on it, get external help with that, if possible.