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So I’ve been struggling for months to find a name that clicks with me. I keep stumbling on names which feel like the one, then a few minutes to a few days later the name loses its sway on me. I feel like I just have to finally pick something so I can move on with my life, but I’m really not having much success. I keep telling myself that I can change it again later if I end up hating the one I pick, but it’s hard enough to get people to change how they address me once. It’s weird because I’m very infrequently this indecisive, but this choice has me really circling the drainpipe. Idk how to find one that speaks to me which I don’t feel like I’ll regret. I’m really feeling for my parents having to name me in the first place now—this shit hard lol

Did anyone else have this experience? How did your name come to you? Does anyone have any advice for me?

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[–] Aquila@sh.itjust.works 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

I have zero relatability to this but naming things is often cited one of the hardest things to do in software engineering so don’t feel bad!

What about derivative of current name? I’d understand if that’s not what you’re looking for tho

[–] Blahaj_Blast@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I think I like the idea of a derivative of a current name, but an extended family member has that name and it feels like it would be super weird, so it's difficult to think about it other than that.

[–] AlataOrange@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 1 year ago

Depending on the name on question there are likely other variations of you open yourself up to other languages. See Nicholas having: Miklós, Nicander, Nicanor, Niccolò, Nickolas, Nico, Nicol, Nicola, Nicolaas, Nicolae, Nicolao, Nicolas, Nicolau, Nicolay, Nicole, Nicolle, Nikita, Niklas, Nikola, Nikolai, Nikolaos, Nikolas, Nikolaus, Nikolla, Nikollë, Nikos