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my ex was not who he said he was, am i in the wrong? (piefed.social)

submitted 2 days ago* (last edited 1 day ago) by cutebc24@piefed.social to c/goodoffmychest@lemmy.world

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I (20f) was 13 and dated a 33 year old, jake. Here’s the thing, though. It happened 7 years ago but i still feel a bit bad for it.

We met online and jake started talking to me a lot and liking my posts on instagram. I ended up joining his small discord server that he didn’t use a lot.

He never told me his age but he would always show a picture of a teenage boy on his posts and send them to me, who looked about 14. Plus, when i confessed that he looked cute (or the boy did) and i said i liked him, he said yes when i asked him out.

things went well in the relationship. He was attentive to me, funny, I really liked him despite being young, so just puppy love.

he knew i was 13, i didn’t know his age. He, after a month of being romantic and calling me cute, wanted to get back with his ex (m20s) and told me that he was actually 33.

He felt bad and said he shouldn’t be talking to minors my age, and also said that I groomed him and tricked him into going out with me. He also said he said yes because he felt bad because i “guilt-tripped” him even though he never showed his real face and didn’t tell me he was freaking 33.

Edit: thank you for your support!! 🙏 🫂

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[–] Darkassassin07@lemmy.ca 41 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Woah, you are 100% not in the wrong; he is.

HE groomed you, he was aware he's literally criminally older than you in this scenario and He had the legal responsibility to recognize that and break off the connection AS SOON as he knew you were a minor. Then there's the blatantly lying by presenting himself as a minor/teenager.

He's lucky to not be in prison right now. That's exactly where this would and should have led if it had continued.

and also said that I groomed him and tricked him into going out with me.

This statement is an attempt to scare you away from reporting this to authorities, so he doesn't face consequences for his blatantly illegal actions.

Please don't feel bad; you did nothing wrong. I wish you the best of luck in the future. :)

[–] cutebc24@piefed.social 6 points 2 days ago

Thank you 🫂 i thought i did, but tysm